When I was in the third grade most of the boys thought the girls had cooties. But one blue eyed towheaded blonde boy, named Richard, didn’t think so. He liked me. I will never forget the day he kissed me. I knew then and there we would grow up and get married and live happily ever after. My happily ever after ended the summer we moved away, but Richard will always hold a special place in my heart.
We all long for that someone to give our heart to. To be chosen. To be loved.
“Now Saul’s daughter Michal was in love with David, and when they told Saul about it, he was pleased” 1 Samuel 18:20
One might think this verse is the beginning to a life of happily ever after for Michal. After all, she is a princess and her father the king is pleased she is in love with David. He seems so loving and supportive. But Saul was not looking out for the happiness of his daughter. He planned to use her love for David as a snare to get rid of him. When Saul’s plan fails, he concedes to the marriage of Michal and David.
Saul’s hatred for David is unrelenting and his pursuits to kill him lead Michal to help David escape the rage of her father. Saul declares her marriage with David over, and gives Michal in marriage to another man.
Despite the loyalty and risk Michal took for David, there is no record of him coming back for her. He married other women during the years he was gone. And it was not until after Saul’s death and he was about to rule as king that David remembered Michal. He demanded that she be taken from her second husband, to whom she had been married for at least ten years, and returned to him.
Like Saul, David did not care about Michal’s feelings or desires. My heart goes out to her because of how helpless she must have felt. She had no control over her own life. She was a pawn used for someone else’s gain. Michal’s heart became a prison of bitterness, and David, whom she once loved, became someone she despised.
When David returned with the ark of the covenant, the symbol of God’s presence, his heart was filled with joy. Michal’s heart was so filled with bitterness that she could not sense God’s presence or feel His love. The real tragedy for Michal is she never turned to God for comfort and healing from all her hurt and pain. She chose to remain bitter.
I think there is a little Michal in all of us. When hurtful words are said and our hearts are crushed. We get thirsty to drink from the cup of bitterness when life is not the happily ever after we had planned on.
Like Michal we have a choice.
To drink in bitterness or drink in the grace God gives us to forgive those who have hurt us. Will you choose to forgive and allow God to comfort and heal your broken heart?
Cheryl Crawford is a daughter of the Most High King, saved by grace. Her degree and field of work are in accounting, but would trade it all to farm if she could. She enjoys reading, writing, gardening, SEC football and playing cards with friends. Cheryl is a natural organizer with a heart that loves to serve. You can read more about Cheryl on her BoP bio.