Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

I don’t know if the pain of rejection has ever broken your heart, but it has mine. The tears you cry all because you want to be accepted. The echoed taunts, cruel words and actions of others rip into your heart and cause you to feel like you don’t matter at all. You are deemed unwanted and unloved. For all of us who have experienced rejection, just like God saw Leah, He sees you.

When the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, he enabled her to have children, but Rachel could not conceive.  Genesis 29:31

When I read Leah’s story my heart goes out to her. The rejection from her father who must have found her so unworthy because he deceives Jacob into marrying her. Jacob who falls for the deception thinks he is marrying Rachel only to find out the next morning he has married Leah. Jacob then argues with Laban and marries Rachel too. Leah is left unwanted and unloved.

When God saw that Jacob did not love Leah, God loved Leah. He did the one thing that meant more to a woman in Leah’s day than anything else in the world. God took Leah’s pain away as only He could by enabling her to conceive. The Lord, in the midst of all of the rejection, was communicating to Leah His loving acceptance of her. He was saying, “You are my daughter and I love you!” But Leah didn’t get it and neither do we when we look to acceptance first in people and not in God.

Leah gave birth to three sons in hopes of winning Jacob’s love. When her first son is born she says,

“Surely my husband will love me now.” Genesis 29:32

But he didn’t. When her second and third sons are born Leah again clings to the hope of finding love and acceptance from her husband.

“Now at last my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.” Genesis 29:34

But once again Leah is left unloved by Jacob.

When Leah’s fourth son is born, instead of saying, “My husband will love me now,” she said,

“This time I will praise the LORD.” Genesis 29:35  

She stopped looking only to her husband, but looked to the Lord for love. Like Leah we have to come to know that, “Until God is enough for us, it will never be enough for us.”   She now believed deeply that God accepted and loved her. Like Leah we can know that rejection will come, but the Lord will never reject us.img_0489

Nothing, “will be able to separate us from the love of God.”  Romans 8:39

Rejection is not a dead end. It’s a redirection. When people reject you it’s a sign they were not the right one for you. God is the God who chooses the unchosen. If we know that He chose us before the foundations of the earth then we don’t have to look to other’s to win their approval. He has declared His righteousness as a banner over our life.

We are CHOSEN. We are God’s first pick, and I would rather be His first pick than anyone else’s in this world.


Don’t let those who have rejected you cause you to believe you are not of any value.

You are of great value to God.

The power of what Jesus did on the cross breaks the fear of rejection in your life. It doesn’t mean you won’t be rejected again, but there is the power of God’s blessing that is greater than the rejection.

You are highly favored, loved and accepted by God.


Read more on Leah with us on our “Learning from Their Examples” series.

Cheryl Crawford is a daughter of the Most High King, saved by grace. Her degree and field of work are in accounting, but would trade it all to farm if she could. She enjoys reading, writing, gardening, SEC football and playing cards with friends. Cheryl is a natural organizer with a heart that loves to serve. You can read more about Cheryl on her BoP bio.

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