Recently, I was told of a way to help children learn through discerning rather than outright telling them what you want them to know. After sharing a story with them, pose the question, “I wonder who you are in this story?” This approach allows them to try on the roles and see what fits. If it works for kids, surely it’s a tool we can use. Here goes.
In the story of Rebekah, we are ushered into the world of her life and loves. When first encountered, young Rebecca has chosen to be a humble servant to Abraham’s senior servant and his team of camels. She’s then shown as the adventurous bride to be leaving friends and family behind to become the beloved wife of Isaac. Finally, she is revealed to be the finest example of a helicopter mom of her favorite son, Jacob.
I’d like to think that going the extra mile and sacrificing my time for the benefit of others is part of my legacy. And I have certainly been adventurous and am a beloved wife. But where I most readily see myself right now is as the dreaded helicopter mom.
There are definitely times I prefer one of my two children to the other. Generally, it’s the one NOT creating drama. I love them both and can go all Mama Bear in a heartbeat if I perceive that either has been treated unjustly. And therein lies my close resemblance to Rebekah.
When her twins were in her womb, Rebekah was so concerned about their constant kicking and tumbling she went to God. God revealed she was carrying two nations who were butting heads. And the youngest would overpower and be served by the oldest. That’s what God said to Rebekah.
And the Lord said to her, “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples from within you shall be divided; the one shall be stronger than the other, the older shall serve the younger.” Genesis 25:23
Well now. If God said it and you heard it, wouldn’t you think he meant for you to make sure it comes to pass? It’s not that you thought he needed your help, you were just allowing Him to use you as His vessel. Right? Right?
Like Rebekah, that is the trap we fall into sometimes.
We see with our small mind’s eye the opportunity about to pass us by. The very thing he promised us doesn’t look like it’s gonna happen. So we fool ourselves into thinking the ends (the sins) justify the means.
If we have to resort to deception to accomplish a goal, that’s a foolproof way to know it’s not God using us. It’s just us butting into “grown folks business.” And it costs dearly when we attempt to help God do what only God can.
I wonder who you are in this story?
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