Actions Speak Volumes

Now Naomi had a relative on her husband’s side, a man of standing from the clan of Elimelek, whose name was Boaz.-Ruth 2:1

If I didn’t know any better I would have thought that I was unknowingly being punished for past and future misconducts.

I would use the word “hate” but it’s such an ugly word that I will say “disliked tremendously” playing with my younger sister. Oh, don’t get me wrong I love my sister. She is the best. To this day she looks out for me. But as the older sister there comes a time when I must put my foot down; when I must draw the line somewhere. Unfortunately my mom didn’t see it my way. I can still hear her say, “Play with your sister!”

As little girls’ I remember sitting in the middle of our bedroom floor surrounded by a dream house, swimming pool, pink car and more clothes and shoes than anyone can imagine. And let’s not forget the sister, the dog, the cat and the horse and most importantly the very long time boyfriend- soon to be husband.

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We (I mean my sister) would naturally plan the perfect wedding. She would organize everything from the flowers, dress, food, music and the guest list. You would think she was planning her own wedding at a very young age. But what young lady has not planned of her dream wedding down to the smallest detail neatly displayed in a scrapbook and hidden under the bed to share with her girlfriends.

We become so wrapped up in the idea of marriage and what that entails that we lose focus on the qualities we are looking for in a future husband? I mean, did Barbie ever consider the kind of man Ken was? Obviously Barbie noticed he was handsome, strong and fun to be with. Was there more to Ken than what was seen on the outside? What was he like on the inside?  Did he possess other characteristics such as, being worthy, a defender, a good provider, perceptive to the needs of others, kindhearted and a man of honor?

Ruth witnessed these qualities in Boaz, the wealthy businessman who redeemed the family name by marrying Ruth and caring for Naomi. His actions rather than his words demonstrated the kind of person he was on the inside. Its one thing to say “I love you” or “I’m sorry” but to truly express your feelings is another. It’s like the common writing rule- “show, don’t tell.”

I remember sitting down at my parents’ dining room table writing out a list of do’s and don’ts of the next guy. At the top of list was, does not drive a truck and does not wear cowboy boots. I guess nothing else mattered.

Am I concerned I haven’t found my Boaz? No, because God’s plan for my life is far better than what I could ever imagine for myself -with or without a leading man. – Tonya



Tonya Masoner is a part-time legal assistant and full-time school custodian. She enjoys thrift shopping, pizza Sunday’s and binge watching Netflix. She loves telling people-“God’s got a sense of humor… I don’t even drink coffee.” Her Breath on Paper bio can be found here.


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