Am I Ready to be a Wife?

“She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.”

Proverbs 31:18

I have spent many hours, days, weeks, and years imagining the way my future husband will propose to me. It only seems like the typical thing for a girl to do – dreaming about the perfect gown, the bridesmaids dresses, the beautiful ceremony, and not to mention the bling bling. Among all of these things, I mostly think about the man waiting on the opposite end of the aisle. The biggest question I seem to ask myself is, am I ready? Am I ready for a lifetime of happiness and also pain with this man? Am I ready to let him lead me, even through the darkest tunnels? Am I ready for that one-knee moment? I pray daily that God would ready my heart for marriage, that He would prepare and equip me to love, support, encourage, and follow my husband with the same gentleness and strength of that of the Proverbs 31 woman.


As I was skimming Proverbs 31 searching for the scriptures I wanted , I felt the Holy Spirit pointing huge neon signs at a few particular verses. Not because I was the most equipped and well-educated on them, but because He was like, “Yeah girl, you need to look at these!  This is for you!” I’ll be the first to admit when I first read this verse, I said, “Okay. What the heck does that even mean?” However, this one small verse actually means way more than meets the eye.

The word “perceives” is “ṭā ‘am” in Hebrew, which actually means to taste, to see, to discover by experience. When the Proverbs 31 woman perceives that her merchandise is good, it’s because she has taken care of it, and taken the time to make sure it is of good quality.  The Proverbs 31 woman is a good steward of her possessions, and her business. This in turn makes her a good steward of her home. This also means that when she is making the decision to purchase something, she is careful that she isn’t spending senselessly, but rather knowing full well all the benefits of her goods, and how they will contribute to her family. The Proverbs 31 woman is resourceful, knowing that she will reap the benefits of what she sows.

While she is a good steward of her possessions, she is also a good steward of her marriage. At first, when I read, “her lamp does not go out at night,” I was like, okay that’s dangerous. You leave the fire on? But alas, my pea-sized brain has had a revelation. When the Proverbs 31 woman’s lamp does not go out at night, it doesn’t mean she is working tirelessly through the night, or that she forgets to turn the lights off like most of us women (guilty). No, it means that her faith is strong. Her lamp still burns, even through the darkest moments – her heart will still shine the light of Jesus in her marriage, and in her home. 

I pray that this verse will become my reality, as well as yours. I pray very hard that I become a good steward of my possessions and my home, because Lord knows I need some help in that area! I ask that Jesus would fuel my lamp daily, and keep me bright through the darkest of times. Most importantly, I pray that God gives my future husband some patience. Amen! -Arrianna

Missed yesterday’s post on Proverbs 31:17? Click here


Arriann037a is a happy-go-lucky young lady who enjoys beauty, fashion, and spreading the love of Jesus through: small groups, YouTube videos, and blogging. Her dream is to one day be a wife, mother, and friend – but most importantly a world changer for the Kingdom of God. For more about Arrianna, click here. 


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