The Proverbs 31 woman seems like such an illusive example to follow. Doesn’t she??? Especially when you consider the point in history that these verses were recorded. How is it possible that such a woman existed in a time that was so primitive in comparison to what we experience now? I mean, COME ON! She does everything under the sun!!!!
As if it’s not intimidating enough that it starts off in verse 10 about how rare this kind of woman is, by verse 15 the bar is set so incredibly high that even with a ladder you couldn’t touch it! By the time verse 31 rolls around, its obvious that this is officially the most unattainable goal EVER!!!
…or is it?
Much like our Lady Proverbs (aka Superwoman), and most women, I wear many hats. In a nutshell, I am a full time wife, mom of 3 very busy kiddos, a part time professional photographer, a servant in ministry, babysitter, a daughter, sister, friend, and blogger, etc. (In case you’re wondering, my cape is purple. Lol!) The difference is, I don’t look as good in metaphorical spandex!!!! And also, I live in a time where I have every luxury and convenience at my finger tips that didn’t exist at all in HER time, and still lack the ability to accomplish all that she does in the same day, or even the same week, much less with energy to spare! I very much know the meaning of hard work, as well as energy. In my world the two don’t typically go together; not unless it comes with a depleting caffeine crash a few hours later.
As you read the verses of this fantastic woman, it’s easy to become discouraged at how impossible it seems to be anything like her. But perk up, buttercup! I’ve got good news! Further studying of this incredible woman has opened my eyes to truth that changes my whole perspective of what they’re really saying.
The most intriguing part about my study was letting what I already knew of these verses register in my mind. It’s King Solomon’s mother who is advising him on the kind of woman to look for in a wife. King Solomon’s mother was none other than Bathsheba, the woman that became pregnant by King David after he lustfully committed adultery with her, then married after having her husband killed in battle.
Got your attention, didn’t it?
My initial thought upon reading Proverbs 31 for the longest time was that “It takes one to know one,” for his mother to be advising him. But that’s not exactly the case. I can now so clearly see this mother, having reflected on her own character before redemption, desiring to teach her son to not only seek the qualities she lacked at the time his father met her but every quality she would hope the woman he marries would have. Isn’t that just like a good mother? To desire better for her children and therefore strive to teach them so? I love this revelation!
The reality is, there is no one woman who has ever lived or ever will that could literally embrace every single characteristic in this list as we understand it on the surface. And it’s not about that anyway. Thus, my next point…
The Amplified Bible reads like this:
“She equips herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] And makes her arms strong.” Proverbs 31:17 AMP
From this version I see that it goes beyond her just being energetic and working hard. She equips herself with strength for her God-given task and makes her arms strong. I believe Solomon’s mother learned what every woman who desires to reflect the Proverbs 31 image must learn, and she was imparting this wisdom to him. That is its only through God is she able to do any of it, none of it is on her own. (Nope! Not even with Starbuck’s help!) THAT is the key to exuding the Proverbs 31 woman character; equipping ourselves for OUR God-given tasks with God Himself and the Word.
The Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t exist without the Father first existing in her. ~ Heather
Heather Whidden loves Jesus, is married to her best friend and is mother of 3 blessings. She is a professional photographer and has a heart for ministry. She loves spending time with her family and friends, writing, reading, and traveling. Time and people is what she values most. You can read more about her here.