A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger. –Proverbs 15:1
Did you know your tongue is made up of many groups of muscles? But unlike certain organs, you can control your tongue. Unfortunately, there are no muscle groups that control the words we say with the help of our tongue. That is our responsibility.
Can you touch the roof of your mouth with your tongue? Can you stick out your tongue? Can you move your tongue from one cheek to the other? Sure you can. And I bet you didn’t even have to think about it. You just did it. I think that is how we are with our words. We don’t think about what we’re saying. We just say what “pops” into our head.
I believe our emotions and attitudes play a big part in the words we say. Our whole demeanor can change with just a few words. I know all too well the impact of just a few words can have on a person’s life.
“You won’t make it without me.” Those are the words my first ex-husband said to me. Those six words haunted me for many years. I had heard them so many times they began to play like a record in my head. They became embedded in my head that I started to believe them. What if he was right? What if I couldn’t make it without him? The words he spoke out of anger affected me. I think his words held me back to some extent. I was afraid of failing so I didn’t even try. I had a very hard time trusting people. I put concrete walls around me so no one would get in. I was not going to be that vulnerable again.
Proverbs 18:24 says but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother and I realized he was the only I could trust. I knew he would have my back and he would not leave me no matter what. I began spending more and more time with God and realized we made a good fit. Over time those haunting words faded and were replaced with the words of God. I am loved. I am valued. And I am adored.
Funny little thing about words. My ex-husband probably doesn’t even remember saying those words that managed to hang over me for years. But I have not forgotten. They are still there in the back of my mind as a reminder of where I once was, but where I am no longer. Amen!
I love this quote by Joyce Meyer. I believe it to be powerful and true. “We must realize and understand the power carried by our thoughts and words. They’re so powerful they can bring either blessings or curses into our lives, depending on their nature. Our thoughts and words are like the rudder of a ship-they may seem small, but they affect the very direction of our lives.” ~Tonya
Your Turn: You have a choice. You can choose to be “gentle” or “harsh” with your words. The choice you make influences the reply. And the reply influences your relationships. Have you ever “put your foot in your mouth” and wished you could take it back? What were the consequences of your words? Share with us. –Breath on Paper