In our social media world we often see our friends posts and find ourselves feeling inadequate. We are left hurting with feelings of insecurity and loneliness. So what do we do? The quick fix is to throw up a selfie, posted with filters that make us look Ah-mazing! Next all our friends begin clicking the ‘like’ button and commenting with: I like your boots…your hair looks great, u r beautiful. It gives us satisfaction for the moment. In reality, we are living for ‘likes’ and longing for LOVE; something that is real, something that is authentic. We trade-off loneliness for artificial likes. It’s called “Deferred Loneliness.” Putting off the loneliness for the moment in exchange for an artificial like.
In Craig Groeshel’s new book, #Struggles: Following Jesus in a Selfie-Centered World, he says:
We’re busy, but bored.
We’re full, but empty.
We’re connected, but lonelier than ever.
Groeshel talks about putting filters over our lives. Just like we use the filters on our phone app to say: Here’s the me I want you to see. He says the more filtered our lives become, the less authentic we are and the more we crave something real.
My generation certainly didn’t turn the camera on ourselves when we were growing up but we are still guilty nonetheless. Even if we don’t tweet, post, like and comment, we still live in a “selfie-centered world.” We are masters at faking it: at church…in small groups…even with our Christian friends. We give this righteous image that we want others to believe. We too have mastered faking it!
What are we so afraid of? That we will not get those “likes” we long for? The truth is we may impress people with our strengths but we connect with people through our weaknesses. Don’t we connect more easily with hurting people than we do with that person who looks perfect? Being transparent and talking openly with others allows us to connect in an authentic and real way.
So, what are we to do? What’s the answer? I’m not suggesting that you get off of all social media. We all need at least one person to be real with. Someone who knows the real us… unfiltered…. warts and all. Only Christ can remove your veil. 2 Corinthians 3:16 tells us But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. We don’t remove the veil. Christ takes away the veil when we turn to Him. The closer we draw to God the more real we can become. If we want to put off the loneliness for the opportunity to be used by God then we have to draw close to Him and allow Him to take the veil away.
Our heroine this week is a great example of being real. She was a woman who drew close to God and Paul noticed. He spoke highly of Phoebe to the Romans because she was an authentic woman of integrity. She was unfiltered!
God is looking for a few unfiltered women.
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Your Turn: Do you have that one person that you can be real with? Is it time to take your veil off? Share in Leave a Reply. ~ Cindy